Geust blogger Raman

My work has given me the opportunity to meet a lot of interesting people from various walks of life, religious backgrounds and lifestyles. As I spoke with them I discovered that having my marriage kind of arranged was a great icebreaker, and my social circle mushroomed each time I retold my story.

 I personally think an arranged marriage assisted through technology is a good idea. I feel it would be easier for me to share a life with someone who understood my upbringing and culture.The scary part however of arranged marriage   to me is the big S. 

Most religions and civilized societies will agree that sex is an integral part of a marriage. “It’s also nice to have a spiritual and family connection with your mate, rather than one that begins in a bar and ends with sex.”  A good % of American couples have sex on the third date and I may just see my fiancé three times before we get married.  I would not be able to share with you what sex in an arranged marriage is like so i asked a friend

“In an arranged  marriage you have to cross the hurdle of just sex. Once you past the hurdle and build a trust and respect for the physical relationship to blossom. It may take time but once that time is elapsed you would have the most intimate physical relationship.”                                                                   

                                                                                                 Some one who had an arrange marriage 

Sexual Health I have been told  can be improved naturally through the practices of Tantra Yoga and tantric sex. Besides having a strong body/mind/spirit connection, every loving couple should also enjoy multiple, powerful sexual orgasms, which stimulate and increase the secretion of the pineal and pituitary glands.

As things were getting serious two of my friends  took me aside and gave me the rundown  on the birds and bees. Combine an Indian upbringing with a Catholic-school education, and my knowledge of sex was limited to "It is a sin." Despite blushing profusely and begging them to stop, I completed the crash course, one of my friends  who armed  with the Kama Sutra, which he had downloaded onto my PDA made some good laughing.

The long drive

Against all rules that I had made about not driving more than 15 mins on a date, I decided to drive 10 hrs over one weekend to actually see if we had a few things in common.

We met for lunch and had a nice conversation. The one thing that I felt after the lunch was the uncertainty and the fear of rejection. Not getting a call over the weekend, I called mid week and reached an answering machine now my uncertainty grew, but there was some kind of a assurance when she called back over the next weekend and we had a great conversation.

That evening I called my father and told him what had conspired during the week. He told me to see how it goes after few dates to see where it goes from there.

For some one who wants answers right away and likes instant gratification, I did not like the process where I was not in control of the situation.

The arranged marriage system has worked for a lot of people over a long period of time. Weighing those pros and cons I guess it worth finally listening to those older than me and taking their advice in this matter and see where it goes

The spread sheet from a guest blogger

One of my former supervisors suggested a spreadsheet. He told me that the best way to eliminate prospective marriage partners is by creating a table based on points. The points are given based on the ideal qualities that one seeks in a partner.


The candidate with the highest points will be the best match for marriage.  

One of my friends professes to have tried this method and has claimed that the spread sheet is a great insight into finding the right partner.

CANIDATES SHORTLISTING PROCESS 

Person            ®	A	B	C	D	E	F	H
Topic              ¯
Age	2	2	3	4	4	4	2
Education	4	4	3	1	1	3	2
Job	3	4	2	1	1	3	2
Income Potential	3	4	3	1	1	3	3
Upkeep	2	1	3	4	4	2	3
Attractiveness	4	2	2	3	2	3	4
Chemistry	3	3	1	1	2	2	2
Readiness for marriage	4	4	3	3	4	3	4
Intuition	4	4	2	2	2	3	3
Artistic creativity	4	3	2	3	2	4	4
Spirituality and religion	4	3	4	3	4	2	3
Entertainment/ fine dining enjoyment	3	4	2	2	2	3	3
Support given in my opinion	4	4	2	2	4	3	4
Music choice	3 All kinds	4 Country	2	3 All kinds	2	3 All kinds	3 All Kinds
Total	47	46	34	33	35	41	42

An additional 10 points is at stake for each short listed candidate. The 10 points is awarded based on personal interview / face to face meeting to see the connection with others

Guest bloggers

In upcoming weeks we will be featuring a few guest bloggers. This is being done to give the readers a different side and different viewpoint on arranged marriages.

the next 2 mails from the last gal

She wrote

Hi

Hope u had a good time in ## .. When do u return to ##?

I went to India in march of this year after  ## yrs ... Was totally amazed by all the changes esp ###### airport ... Looked like a different airport. But The traffic in ##### is horrendous. I'm hoping to make a trip home in early ####. Are u planning a trip to India anytime soon?

My brother lives in ######## about 200 miles from where I'm now ... That's really nice.  Do u have alot of family in the ### ?

It would be great if we could talk sometime my cell is

His Reply

Hi

Thanks for the mail. Hope all is well in ##.

I dropped you a line a couple of mins back i guess u were busy. by the way my # is ########## just in case the voice message I sent was not clear.

I love the last couple of days in #####. spending some quality time with friends and just having a blast. I leave for home  tomorrow and will be there late tomorrow evening.

I was actually planning to go back in December of this year but decided to postpone the trip. I went back in 07 after like like 4 years.

Wel I was gonna keep this mail short that way I guess we will have a lot more to talk abt, not that I run out of topics.

hope you have  a great day ∧ talk to u soon

Following the exchange of # we continued our correspondence via the phone