My Mom Emails Her mom

Wow. She's cute.

I thought it would be better for my mom to write back instead of me,  so I asked my mom to reply from my email. She did.

On Sat, Oct 24, 2009 at 6:36 PM,


The email read

Dear ####,


Thank your for replying to my son's email. My name is #### and we live in Glendale, CA.

My husband lives in Colaba, Bombay. #### is 5' 7" and he is an only child. My mother is a Goan from Charao and father was East Indian.


She forgot the pic so email 2 was sent

On Sat, Oct 24, 2009 at 6:38 PM,



I sent the last email without a picture by mistake. Please find an attachment of my sons picture.

They actually wrote back!

I was suprised and excited by the response from the ad in the "Examiner."

Hello ,


Thank you for your email.


Our elder daughter, #####, is 28 years old, 5'2.5" and wheatish complexioned. She has completed her B.E (Computer Science) from Goa and then M.S (Computer Science) from Detroit, US. She worked as a consultant for #### in St. Louis for about 9 months and then took up a job as a software engineer in the Operating Systems Group at ##### . in Cupertino, California. She has been working with   since about 2 years.

I am a Doctor, now having my private clinic in Margao. But have worked in Bombay (Sion), Dandeli and Muscat before settling down in Goa. My husband worked in Muscat for about 20 years in a private company and has now retired. Our younger daughter has just completed her MBBS.


We are Roman Catholics, originally from Baga, Velim, Salcette, Goa and have been residing in Margao for more than 20 years.


I am hereby sending across a picture of ##### and if you are interested, it would be nice if you would send across your picture as well.



Thanking you,

Sincerely,

The First Ad Reply

My parents forwarded the matrimonial advertisement in the examiner regarding your daughter.


Further to your advertisment in the examiner my details are

Name: ##################

Date of birth: XXXXXXXXXX

Qualifications: B.com Management Studies, Mumbai university,

Masters in Advertising &and Public relations, KC college ,

Dloma in advanced computing art(CDAC),

Global Logistics Management Program at CSUDH( Cal State University Dominguez Hills)



Experience:After having worked in india for two years after graduation as an event coordinator and public relations executive and as a creative services consultant he migrated to the usa in may 2003 and has been there ever since. I currently have my green card and after two years will be applying for his american citizenship. I have been working in the usa as the director youth affairs and public relations with alocal nonprofit in california.



Other details: both my parents are practicing Christians and have brought up in the Christians teachings.

My father owns an event management company. My mother is in the usa and is helping out in the church activities. I am the only child.



If you are interested in taking this matter further I would be obliged if you could send me your daughters resume, and photograph

The Decission to reply

I guess I was  tired of me being single. Tired of having all my friends get married; of me being the third wheel every time I hung out with them.  I just could not take another failed relationship.  I had actually grown up and was considering replying to a matrimonial ad sent by father back in India. I guess I was tired of trying to find love on my own. Tired of surfing dating sites and dating incompatible women.  So 2 failed engagements and 3 stalkers later, I finally was man enough to ask for help, or was I?

My cousin was actualy the one planted the seed that made me realise I needed help. She had just lost her father and she initiallty broke down.  She was just 23, but was bold enough to ask the family to help in finding a boy for her. I opposed the idea at first. but since she was the only daughter, and I am the only son, we were similar. I began to think; I actually looked at what made her take the decision to reach out to family, and it made sense.

So I  was deciding  to reply to the ad, but was that the right thing to do?

Was me  asking my parents and family to help in finding me a bride, a good decisions?

These were the questions I had to answer

My parents mail to me

After a disagreement with my parents in 2007 I told them never to even bring up marriage again. As time went on, it healed the wounds, and we started communicateing again.

On Fri, Oct 23, 2009 at 9:52 AM, I received an email from my father. He was diplomatic and did not want to tick me off again, so it read:

Dear Son,

It's been a long time since I heard from you.  Actually, I came across a very interesting matrimonial advertisement in the "Examiner." If you are interested, you can reply directly to the email address given or call on the mobile number given. The extract of the advertisement is as follows:


"Parents of R.C. Goan spinster 28 yrs. 5'2.5", wheatish complexion, postgraduate, working in U.S.A. Visiting Bombay/Goa in December, invite alliance from bachelors with good family background, working in U.S.A. Kindly reply if interested with details and photograph to ########################"


So now the ball is in your court; if you wish to reply go ahead and either Email or Callon the Email address given or the mobile number given.

bye for now

luv & rgds to all out there,

I want a pre nuptial agreement (a letter from a young man to his family)

Dear Dad

Hope you are doing well and I hope things are well on the business side. I will be visiting India shortly and I know the family has lined up a few marriage proposals for me.  I think it should also be made clear to the prospective proposals that I want the bride to sign a prenuptial agreement before our marriage.

The reason I ask is because I plan to say in the United States where the divorce rate is high.  I don’t think that money should be the criteria in a marriage, but I also think that it would not be fair to the family, for her to have a stake on what the family has build up. By this I mean the property in India.

The prenup is just to protect the family assets which I will inherit some day.  Since we are just four cousins and will be inheriting the family’s assets I think my other cousins should also have a prenup before marriage.

What the pre-nup will state will be listed below

·       All family inheritances from either party will not be liable for division during a separation or divorce.

·       The spouse is not liable to receive proceeds from any venture prior to the marriage. This will include sale or purchase of assets or property held by one of the members of the contract.

·       Spouses shall not be held accountable for loans or debts of his or her spouse prior to the marriage.

·       Any trousseau received will be in the name of the party who it is given to or gifted to.

·       In the case of a trousseau the party who is bringing it into the relationship shall have absolute control over it. The other party will not have any say as to the investment of the assets from the trousseau unless requested by the party who is bringing it in to the relationship.

·       Neither part will be eligible for spousal support.

·       The parent having custody will receive support to bring up the children.

·       In the event of the demise of one of the people to the contract all the assets of the said person will be inherited by his/ her children

·       In the absence of children being born to the said parties of the contract. The property of the said part will be inherited by the other if they are still together.  If there is a separation or divorce all the assets will donated to a charity of his or her choice

The disagreement.

In July of 2007,  I went to India and actually met some prospective matches. I said yes to one of them and started to be a hopeless romantic; I started to count my chickens even before I saw the eggs.

She said NO 3 days before I left back for the USA. I was mad and had a big fight with my father. Me being the guy who wants things as of yesterday and never having being told "NO" made me even angrier. I did not approve of her telling me at the last moment.

My dad said her reasons were family-based. My answer was she has to live with me and me with her, and with no one else (read: relatives).

In this fight I told my parents never to bring up a match again with me. I guess i was afraid of rejection.